Woman has to play the role of a
daughter, sister, wife, daughter-in-law, sister-in-law, mother, mother-in-law and
many more. She is also a good friend people can count on. She plays her roles
honestly and wholeheartedly. She puts so much effort in being the best that she
often forgets who she really is.
She always tries to find herself
in others, her identity in others. Being a daughter, she finds her world in her
parents, trying to make them happy all the time and trying her best to be the
good daughter. But what she forgets is that when you try to live for others’
sake, you don’t live for yourself. Her life as a daughter is what her parents
want her to be which might not always be what she wants.
She might also be a sister to her
siblings and if she happens to be the eldest ones, there are many sacrifices
she needs to make. It starts with giving away her toys to her younger siblings
and gradually as she grows, so does her responsibilities as a sister. She not
only becomes a sister but she also needs to act as a mother to her siblings.
Understanding them, taking care of them, etc. comes along the way. As she goes
into taking up other roles, the countless responsibilities follow.
Every time before doing something,
a girl thinks about what her parents would feel if she did this? Will it affect
her siblings in any way? Will it hurt her in-laws? Will her friends approve of
it? Will her husband be happy with it? Will it hurt anyone? These are usually
the questions she asks herself before doing something while the real questions
should be Would I be happy doing it? Is this good for me? Would it hurt me in
the long run? Is this what I really want?
Each time, it is about others that
she thinks. She tries to find her would, her happiness in keeping others happy.
And while doing all of it, she forgets who she is and what she wanted with
life.
I have seen my mother sacrificing many
things for the sake of her family, as a daughter, as a sister, as a wife, as a
daughter-in-law and as a mother. And I am sure that many of you have the same
story like hers.
Every day, a woman sacrifices
something just so someone she cares about is happy. Giving up the love of your
life, your career, your dreams are not new for the women in our society. These
are the great sacrifices that they had to make to perform their roles as
daughters, daughter-in-laws and mothers. And yet, they are happy because their
family is happy, their loved ones are happy. All it takes for a woman to be happy
is to know that the people she cares about are happy.
It is not just about making
sacrifices because not only our mothers but our fathers, brothers and husbands
also make many sacrifices that go unnoticed. It is about cherishing the women
in our lives, acknowledging their works, their efforts for bringing happiness
in our lives. The little things they do for us every day.
Take a moment and call the women
in your life and let them know how you feel about them. It could be your
mother, your sister, your friend, your wife or anyone else who finds her
happiness in yours. Just give them few minutes of your day and you would be
surprised how happy that can make her.
I think I have written enough and
now it’s time for me to call my mamu! :-)
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